After reading "the death of pretty" by Pat Archbold and "Men growing up to be boys" by Lakshmi Chaudhry, i think if the two sat down for dinner one night they would both have some things in common about the work they published. Both of them have different views of men and women. In Archbold's paper he talks about how woman in todays' time wants to be called "hot" not pretty because no girl wants to be labelled as innocent. In my understanding pretty is used for little girls such as 12 year olds, not 20 year old women. Because apparently nowadays pretty doesn't exist anymore, which i strongly disagree. But in "men growing up to be boys" Lakshmi describes the masculine population as man-boys. How physically we change, but mentally never grow up. Lakshmi gives an example of how we will be more faithful to man products such as beer, than even to the loves of our lives. But when men act like boys, it causes insecurity and social anxiety, so we need that "hot" girl to come into our lives to get us going. Like how Lakshmi uses the movie example of "failure to launch" of an insecurity man-boy who still lives with his parents meets the girl of his dreams and changes his life drastically. So in the end, i dont believe their ideas would clash together, it would mix nicely.
Personally, I disagree with the idea that men need the "hot" girl to come into their lives to get them going. If a girl decides that she wants to portray herself as hot, she won't respect herself properly. She'll let others treat her as they want because she wants to be the hot, fun girl of every guys dreams. Men need a girl who is responsible, who has self confidence and isn't afraid to get on to their ass when needed. That's the only kind of girl that should be able to influence a true man to get his life together. Aside, from that point, I do agree with the rest of what you wrote.
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