Sunday, January 25, 2015
Why Shouldn't Women Have Children
In the reading," Why you should not have children," I think that Caitlin Moran was trying to prove that women do not have to have children to be considered a woman. Yes women were put on this earth to reproduce, but that is not all they are good for. Thought out the reading she states many things that prove she does not suggest women having children. Moran states that if women do not have children in this day in age people believe that somehow they remain a child themselves and if they do not finish their life "properly" by having children their life is at a halt. Moran also states that people think women are not valued when they are elders due to her not being fertile or being able to hold down a family and a steady job, so this should encourage her to have children before she becomes infertile. Moran does not agree with these things, she believes that if woman has a baby it will add to many problems to her life and it will take someone useful out of this world. Moran says," Lets face it, most women will continue to have babies, the planet isn't going to run out of new people so its of no real use to the world for you to have children." This definitely supports that Moran does not believe in women having babies. Moran also thinks that motherhood does not have any lesson to offer a woman. She believes that anything you learn as being a mother you could learn anywhere else. Moran wants people to see that you do not have to have a baby to be valued. Women still have worth as people. Moran says, " while motherhood is an incredible vocation it has no more inherent worth than childless women simply being who she is to utmost her capabilities." When and if someone asks a woman when she is going to have children she often feels rushed. This is usually because women have a time clock and it pressures women into having a baby sooner or later in their life, because they feel as if this is their duty, because having a child is expected of them.
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In my opinion, I believe that having children is the most precious and dreadful thing that many women go through for 9-months in there lifetime. There are quite a few things I do disagree on like when Caitlin Moran says “if a woman decides to have a baby, it will add many problems to her life and it will take someone useful out this world.” This is certainly not true because not every single woman who decides to have a baby will have many problems because it all depends if you are finically stable and ready to have a baby. I also disagree when Caitlin Moran says that “the motherhood does not have any lessons to offer women.” Once again this is NOT TRUE. Having a child makes a women want to better herself not only for her but for her child that she is raising in this world. I have a friend who has an 8 month year old child and she’s living the life as a successful, independent mother. Of course my friend goes through many obstacles but she feels like her child motivates her everyday because she wants her child to be happy and cared for each and everyday. Although I may disagree on some things that Catlin Moran states, but I honestly agree on the part where she says “the reason they don’t ask men when they’re having kids, of course, is because men can pretty much carry on with there normal life”. “But when a woman is asked when they’re going to have a child, this is another darker, more pertinent question lying underneath it.” Basically, women shouldn’t be pressured to have a baby. If she wants to reproduce then, SHE WILL.
ReplyDeleteAlthough some people believe that women shouldnt have children due to the fact that its too expensive or they simply dont want to continue to work when they get home from a long day at work. i believe strongly in your opinion Deborah. But when Caitlin Moran says "if a women decides to have a baby, it will add many problems to her life and it will take someone useful out this world." If anything having a child will help her see the world better, i mean having a child is a piece of you and someone else you care about into one. Thinking that is a waste? i strongly disagree with that thought. i belive that having a child will open your options and see yourself in your son/daughter. Not just thought but the child would make her happy in every way possible.I will add that having a child will cause and form alot of problems, for everyone. The idea that women have to bear the child, with emotional, physical pain. It takes a toll on the mother. But i do agree with you on saying that women are not taught anything through the process of having a kid. It really is a test for women to see if they are mentally strong to see if they can deal with kids. But then again, some women don't have a nurturing bone in her body. So then again, some women arent meant or built to be a mother. Since we have been at college i have meet both ends of these kinds of women, one wants more kids than anything else in the world, while the other wants no kids. To limit their distractions from their work place. I totally agree with you when you say "women shouldnt be pressured to have a baby, if she want to reproduce them, she will". Women are taking too much pressure with baby talks. When it comes down to it at the end of the day. It freedom, you have the freedom to do whatever, and no one will force you to do that, unless of course your husband will. Caitlin Moran continues to say that every women has a biological clock on their bodies which i do believe. Also with planning. planning is a big deal. with planning, its this. If you are engaged by 26, the idea is that when you are financlly stable you can then have a kid possibly around 28? But if you want more kids you have more planning to do, baby names, how far apart should the next one be age wise, you know? planning is key for a future mother.
ReplyDeleteI agree with a majority of this post's interpretation of the author's writing. Womanhood does not necessarily translate into motherhood for some people. Thus, becoming a mother should not be forced upon said ladies. As a global society we are still very much so attached to the view that women should end up caring for their families and leaving the work to the men. Of course this norm is being challenged and conquered in many cultures, but it still remains more than just prevalent. All this being said, I do disagree with two particular statements Asia made. The first being her interpretation of Moran's view on the future of mothers in the world "[supporting the fact] that Moran does not believe in women having babies." To me this is a false statement. Moran does not state that women should not be having babies. In fact, Moran says the fact that you can choose not to have a baby "shouldn't stop you having one if you want one." The second of Asia's statements I disagreed with was a bit of a contradiction with the sentence that follows. First it is stated that she thinks Moran is saying motherhood has absolutely no lesson to offer, followed by Moran's actual view that lessons learned in motherhood can be learned elsewhere. But if "Moran also thinks that motherhood does not have any lesson to offer a woman", how can lessons learned in life be similar to the 'nonexistent' lessons of motherhood? Especially when Moran says "you can learn thousands of interesting things" from being a mother.
ReplyDeleteThough most people tend to agree with Caitlin Moran, saying that having a baby and rising a family as a working woman takes them out of the world, I have to disagree. There are many successful working women today that after giving birth wish to continue work in order to support their newborn child. Instead, they have to abide by doctor’s orders to stay in until cleared. Maybe this is what Moran was referring to. However, as far as leaving work for an extended amount of time, taking a brief hiatus, is not the intended goal for working mothers. Moran also expounds on her belief that no other life lessons can be learned while being a mother that you can’t learn on your own with time and life experiences. I do agree that with time comes wisdom as people learn from their mistakes, but there is something about having to raise and nurture a new human being that women give birth to themselves teaches them over time that can’t be learned, taught, or understood anywhere else. I agree when Asia states that having a baby is now expected of women, making them feel rushed into making a life changing decision. Moran explains how women often get asked with the question “when are you going to have a baby?” rather than “do you want to have children?”, while men get asked nothing because it has become the social norm for all women to have children to be considered a “women”. In my opinion, I believe not all women are meant to have children, and if a women wishes not to have a child it doesn’t make her any less of a women than someone who does.
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