Crews and Theroux are apart of the same conversation. Do I believe they agree with each other? No I do not. Crews is trying to argue how boys these days have been misled on what being a man is. Being a man is not showing dominance over another human, or having to be tough all the time. He states there should be a "gender purpose" rather than "gender equality".
On the other hand, Theroux is trying to explain that being a man is a terrible thing to be, and all the things men stand for in his mind are repulsive. Theroux states that "the whole idea of manhood in America is pitiful, a little like having to wear an ill-fitting coat for one's entire life". They are both a part of the big picture conversation that is the male gender, but both are saying different things about them. Both crews and Theroux are responding to the media, past experiences, and the world. Most importantly the "They Say" they are conversing with is the world and how they look at men and how a man should be seen. People are always taught the tradition in their family that they were born in to. All of the bad gender norms about being a man, like being dominant and strong and tough, are not what being a man is really about. I believe being able to be truthful, and loving to all people, especially the people you do not like is what makes a man and a woman.