Tuesday, January 27, 2015
God Bless the Mother
After I read through "Why You Shouldn'y Have Kids" I can see that Moran clearly has her views on women's roles in having children. Moran has argued that women are to often prompted about when they will have kids, as if it were like a getting a degree or even a job. I understand what Shes saying about this miconception about "women's work". I believe that if a woman wants to have children, fine. If a woman chooses not to have children, fine. I'm a teenaged male, I don't know the pains or work of raising a child. Nor will I ever experience giving birth to a child. (God I hope not) However where I feel that this article is somewhat unfair is the premise for having children. Moran is arguing society views it as social norm for women to bear children and do all of the work of raising them Moran claimed that men can, pretty much, carry on as normal once they've had a baby." (233) That is completely untrue. It's true, women do A LOT in the realm of parenting. But I've talked with my parents about having kids before. My dad told me once my brother and I were born both his and my mom's views, neccessities, and outlook on life completely changed. My parents taught me that you don't go into having kids for physical reasons. No one wants to give up 100k on someone they've never seen before, but having kids s an emotion and spiritual journey. My parents decide to create me because they loved each other so much that they wanted to make their family grow and to have someone to love. I believe Moran is to stuck on the realities of kids not knowing anything besides pooping their diapers at 3 in the morning and crying about it. Children are a labor of love, and they should be viewed that way. If Moran does not want a child that is completely fine, societal views should not play a role in whether someone has a kid or not, the people involved should.
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I don’t think Mrs. Moran sees becoming a mother into something like getting a degree or a job, as to something more like a natural role women will sometime or another have. I think Moran makes a clear point, if women are not comfortable talking about children or even yet, if they don't want to have children, do not bother them about it, simple as that. Moran has exprecince this herself, she was in an interview herself and was asked the same question they ask all the women “So, When are you having kids?” at the age of 18. The first moment she was asked that she busted out laughing, she couldn't believe how someone would ask her when she was planning on having kids when she can't even take care of herself yet. Its different how people only ask women when they will have kids but never really ask the guys the same question. Why? Because a man's life won't really change after they've become a father, they still have the same routine as always, women in the other hand change their life completely. Some women have to put a hold on their jobs, studies or anything to take give 100% attention and care to their children.
ReplyDeleteAfter reading, “Why you shouldn't have children” I have concluded that for a long time I have been an ignorant person. I used to believe that every woman’s dream was to build a family and live in a house with the perfect husband and children running around the house. However, Caitlin Moran has opened my eyes and actually made me realize that not every woman’s dream is to have children. Not all women desire to have the motherhood experience. In addition, I did not pay close attention to how bad society pressures women to have children. By people constantly asking a women questions like, “when are you getting marry? Moreover, “when are you planning to have your first child?” Coming from a Latino culture, society believes that once a woman is between the ages of 25 and 30, there is less chance for those women to get married and have kids. For example, Caitlin Moran mentioned a good saying that there is a “body clock”. There are women like Caitlin that prefer to have a profession and a good job instead of reproducing their own genes. Now, Caitlin also mentioned that when men have children there is not much of a change in their lives because they can keep moving on with their regular life. Therefore, I partly disagree with you Joseph because it is true that when a man takes the role of a parent they have more responsibilities, but they do not have to sacrifice as much as a woman has to. When a woman has a child most of the time it means she has to sacrifice her job, free time, and put the children on the top of her priorities. There is more pressure put on the mother’s side than the father’s side. On the other hand, when a man decides not to take care of the child he can walk away and move on with his life. However, the woman has to make sacrifices to manage her new life with a child. In conclusion, I do agree that no woman should feel pressured to have a child if she does not want to, but if she does its fine too.
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